THE BRIDGES YOU BUILD

SO I JUST LOOKED BACK TO SEE IF I WROTE ABOUT THIS TOPIC BEFORE CAUSE I VAGUELY REMEMBER WRITING SOMETHING LIKE THIS ALREADY... ANDDDDD I DID... SORTA... NOT REALLY. THIS ONE IS A LITTLE BIT DIFFERENT FROM WHAT I WROTE ABOUT LAST TIME. THE BRIDGES YOU BUILD, IM REFERRING TO THE RELATIONSHIPS YOU CREATE. THIS APPLIES TO BOTH YOUR WORK LIFE AND PERSONAL LIFE. IM WRITING THIS POST MORE FOR THE WORK SIDE OF THINGS BUT IL WRITE ABOUT PERSONAL SIDE TOO. IVE SAID IT BEFORE IN THE OTHER POST, YOU NEVER WANT TO BURN ANY BRIDGES WITH ANYONE. ESPECIALLY SINCE MY CITY IS SO SMALL WHERE SOMEONE KNOWS SOMEONE WHO KNOWS YOU, YOU REALLY DONT WANT PEOPLE TO START TALKING. YOU NEVER KNOW WHO IN YOUR PAST WILL ACTUALLY HELP YOU IN THE PRESENT OR EVEN THE FUTURE. THROUGH SOME STRANGE EVENT YOU MIGHT END UP DEPENDING ON SOMEONE FOR SOMETHING, WHETHER FOR AN INTRODUCTION, OR PROMOTION, OR JUST TO HELP YOU OUT. IF YOU BURNED THAT BRIDGE, ODDS ARE THEY WONT HELP YOU WHEN YOU NEED IT. IVE BEEN DEALING WITH A LOT OF DIFFERENT CLIENTS AND CONTRACTORS THROUGHOUT THE YEARS AND A LOT OF THEM HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON, THEY TRY TO KEEP GOOD RELATIONS WITH ME. THEY WOULD JUST GIVE ME A CALL, SEND AN EMAIL, OR JUST GRABBING A COFFEE, THEY WOULD MAKE AN EFFORT TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH ME. GRANTED ITS MORE FOR A BUSINESS REASON THAT THEY KEEP IN TOUCH, BUT THIS IS HOW THEY MAKE SURE THAT THEY ARE ON YOUR MIND. THEN WHEN THE TIME COMES, YOU KNOW WHO TO CALL. IF THEY NEVER EVEN TRIED TO BUILD THAT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU AND YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THEM, WHAT ARE THE ODDS OF YOU EVEN BOTHERING LOOKING FOR THEM? LOW!!! MAKING THAT FIRST STEP AT LEAST GETS YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR, AND POSSIBLY MORE BUSINESS IN THE FUTURE. EVERYTHING IS CALCULATED, AND IT ONLY MAKES SENSE TO INVEST IN RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOURE INVESTING IN YOUR OWN FUTURE, AND THATS HOW YOU SURVIVE. FOR PERSONAL LIFE??? IM GETTING TO THE AGE WHERE MY GROUPS OF FRIENDS ARE GETTING MORE SET, SETTLING DOWN, GETTING MARRIED, AND HAVING KIDS. ITS HARDER AND HARDER TO MEET NEW PEOPLE. OF COURSE I HAVE MY MAIN CORE GROUP OF FRIENDS, AND THEN THOSE FRIENDS IM FRIENDS WITH, AND THE FRIENDS OF FRIENDS THAT IM FRIENDS WITH, AND THOSE FRIENDS WHO ARE ACQUAINTANCES AND I DONT REALLY HANG OUT MUCH WITH OR AT ALL. IT JUST SEEMED SO MUCH EASIER BACK IN THE DAY WHERE YOU JUST MEET EVERYONE AND JUST HAD A GREAT TIME, YOU END UP SEEING THEM ALL THE TIME AND THEN FROM THEM YOU MEET MORE PEOPLE AND THEY MEET YOUR PEOPLE AND SO ON AND SO ON. THESE DAYS HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS... GO OUT AND SAY, HEY! LETS BE FRIENDS? YOU WOULD JUST END UP WITH A WEIRD STARE AND THEY WOULD RUN AWAY FROM YOU. WHEN YOU DO END UP JOINING A NEW GROUP OF PEOPLE, ITS ALWAYS HARD TOO BECAUSE THEY ALREADY HAVE THAT BASE AND HISTORY WITH EACH OTHER THAT YOU DONT HAVE. THEN WHEN SOMEONE BRINGS YOU INTO THEIR GROUP, ITS JUST LIKE... WHAT ARE THEY DOING HERE, OR WHO IS THIS THAT IVE NEVER MET BEFORE. THEN WHEN YOU FINALLY ARE IN THE GROUP IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE TO START EVERYTHING AGAIN WITH THE NEW PEOPLE, AND LEARN EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM. MAKING NEW FRIENDS AND BUILDING NEW RELATIONSHIPS TAKES TOO MUCH TIME, ENERGY, AND MONEY... ALL OF WHICH I DONT HAVE ENOUGH OF. YOU ALL KNOW IM A SOCIAL GUY AND WILL JUST TALK AND TALK AND MEET NEW PEOPLE OR GROUPS, BUT SOMETIMES ITS JUST REALLY HARD, AND SOMETIMES I JUST THINK WHY DO I EVEN BOTHER...

OMG SO MANY EPISODES OF PERSON OF INTEREST!!! THERE WERE 3 THIS WEEK AND ITS JUST AHHHHHHHHH!!! FANBOY!!!!!!!!!!! LOL. I REALLY JUST WANTED TO WRITE ABOUT THE TOP ONE CAUSE ITS BEEN REALLY RELEVANT LATELY SO YA... REST OF LIFE? WORKS BUSY, AS A MATTER OF FACT I HAVE MEETINGS ALL DAY AND MEETINGS TO PREPARE FOR. WORK WORK WORK... LONG WEEKEND WAS FINE, JUST HUNG OUT AND ATE A LOT LOL. IM TRED AND TOMORROW IS THE BIGGEST MEETING FOR MY PORTFOLIO SO IM GONNA GO SLEEP. SEE YA NEXT TIME.

RT