DONT COMPARE

I DIDNT REALLY HAVE A TOPIC FOR TODAY AND ANY IDEAS I HAD WAS GOING TO BE SHORT AND I FELT LIKE I WANTED TO WRITE SOMETHING MORE... SO I REACHED OUT AND MESSAGED 2 PEOPLE AND 1 REPLIED RIGHT AWAY WITH THIS TOPIC FOR ME :)

DONT COMPARE YOUR LIFE WITH OTHERS. 

ITS AS SIMPLE AS IT GETS. EVERYONES LIFE IS DIFFERENT AND NO TWO ARE ALIKE. WHO AND WHAT THEY HAVE NOW IS A RESULT OF WHAT THEY HAVE DONE AND WHERE THEY HAVE BEEN. THERE IS NO COMPARING HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH THAT OF ANOTHER PERSON. IT JUST DOESNT MAKE SENSE... BUT EVERYONE DOES IT... YOU ONLY SEE THE WHATS ON THE OUTSIDE AND YOU MIGHT LIKE IT OR YOU MIGHT HATE IT, WHO KNOWS... BUT WHAT YOU SEE IS NEVER WHAT YOU GET. YOU DONT KNOW HOW THE OTHER PERSON ENDED UP WHERE THEY ARE WITH WHAT THEY HAVE. YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THEY HAD TO DO... OR WHAT THEY HAD TO GIVE UP... EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. WHATS THE POINT IN COMPARING ANYWAYS??? WILL YOU BE HAPPY THAT YOU ARE BETTER THAN SOMEONE??? WILL IT MAKE YOU JEALOUS THAT YOU ARE WORSE THAN SOMEONE??? WHATS THE POINT??? SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE BETTER THAN YOU AND SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS BE WORSE THAN YOU. YOU WILL JUST END UP WASTING MORE TIME AND ENERGY TRYING TO COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHER PEOPLE. JUST BE HAPPY FOR YOURSELF AND THE THINGS YOU HAVE. IN THE END ITS ALL ABOUT YOU ANYWAYS, YOURE THE ONE LIVING YOUR LIFE AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE. AS LONG AS YOURE HAPPY WHO CARES WHO HAS WHAT OR WHATNOT. ITS EXACTLY THE SAME WHEN YOU THINK OF THE SAYING: "THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE SIDE." WELL... IS IT??? ONCE AGAIN IT COMES BACK TO ONLY SEEING THE SURFACE. JUST LIKE THE ICEBERG PICTURE THAT IS ALWAYS USED IN PSYCHOLOGY WHERE FREUD EXPLAINS THE CONCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS MIND. THE TIP THAT IS ABOVE WATER IS WHAT WE SEE ON THE OUTSIDE LIKE THE MATERIALISTIC THINGS, AND EVERYTHING BENEATH IS WHAT GOT US THERE LIKE ALL THE BLOOD, SWEAT, TEARS, AND EVERYTHING INVISIBLE THAT WENT IN TO GET US TO WHERE WE ARE. ITS EASY TO LOOK AT THE SURFACE AND TRY TO MAKE A COMPARISON BETWEEN HOW GOOD OR HOW BAD YOUR LIFE IS WITH ANOTHER, BECAUSE YOU JUST DONT KNOW WHATS UNDER IT ALL. UNDER DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES YOU MIGHT BE ON THE ONE ON THE OTHER SIDE... YOUR LIFE NOW IS A RESULT OF EVERY MOVE AND EVERY DECISION YOU HAVE EVER MADE. YOU HAVE DECIDED TO COME TO THIS ONE POINT IN TIME, YOU WEIGHED EVERYTHING AND AND CAME TO THE THIS CONCLUSION. EVERYTHING IS A TRADE-OFF BETWEEN ONE CHOICE AND THE NEXT AND FROM THERE EXPANDS AN INFINITE POSSIBILITIES AND SO IN A WAY SOMEWHERE SOMEHOW YOU COULD HAVE ENDED UP AT THAT SPOT AND IS ACTUALLY THERE NOW. SOME PEOPLE ARE HAPPY WITH WHAT THEY HAVE AND WHERE THERE ARE, WHILE OTHERS ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR SOMETHING ELSE... SOMETHING BETTER. SO STOP COMPARING AND LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT AND LET PEOPLE BE JEALOUS AND COMPARE THEIR LIFE TO YOURS :)

WOW... THIS TOPIC TIED INTO A LOT OF TOPICS THAT I HAVE TALKED ABOUT IN THE PAST, BUT THIS TIME IT REALLY CAME TOGETHER. TO SOME IT MIGHT MAKE SENSE AND TO OTHERS IT MIGHT JUST LOOK LIKE THE RAMBLINGS OF A CRAZY GUY LOL BUT IM HAPPY THE WAY IT TURNED OUT.

AND THE REST OF LIFE YOU SAY??? WELL... WORK WAS FINALLY SLOWING DOWN AND I HAD TIME TO CATCH UP ON ALL THE OTHER WORK I NEED TO GET DONE BUT NOPES... I THOUGHT WRONG... ANDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD IM CRAZY BUSY AGAIN... FOOTBALL TEAM IS GOING WELL AND SO IS SOCCER. BESIDES WORK AND TEAMS AND TV I REALLY DONT HAVE THAT MUCH TIME LEFTOVER... AND SINCE I NEED TO WAKE UP EARLY FOR WORK IL LEAVE IT AT THAT :) AND BID YOU GOODNIGHT.

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GIVING ADVICE... TAKING ADVICE...

ADVICE IS A FUNNY THING... WE GIVE IT AND WE TAKE IT... USUALLY WE TAKE ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WITH MORE EXPERIENCE IN THE FIELD OR SOMEONE WHOS A PROFESSIONAL OR JUST SOMEONE THAT JUST KNOWS MORE THAN YOU AND KNOWS WHAT THEYRE TALKING ABOUT. WE BASE OUR DECISIONS ON HOW WE SHOULD ACT OR REACT TO DIFFERENT SITUATIONS BECAUSE OF IT. WE ALSO GIVE ADVICE BASED ON OUR OWN EXPERIENCES OR OUR OWN EXPERTISE. THE ISSUE IS... WHY IS IT ALSO SO MUCH EASIER TO GIVE THE ADVICE THAN TO FOLLOW THE ADVICE... ITS ALWAYS LIKE THAT EH... WE GIVE ADVICE AND PEOPLE GIVE US ADVICE... BUT WE NEVER REALLY LISTEN TO OURSELVES OR OTHERS... I MEAN WE WILL LISTEN AND CONSIDER IT AND GATHER THE OPINIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE BUT IN THE END WE USUALLY JUST END UP DOING WHAT WE WANT. GRANTED... SOMETIMES WE DO LISTEN BUT IF WE DONT LIKE WHAT WE HEAR WE JUST END UP SAYING: "SCREW IT" AND DO WHAT WE WANT... I GUESS ITS JUST NATURAL... GIVING ADVICE DOESNT HURT US, AND IT HELPS OTHERS. WHEN TAKING ADVICE IT CAN DIRECTLY IMPACT HOW SOMETHING WILL COME OUT ON THE OTHER SIDE. WE ALL JUST WANT THE BEST FOR OURSELVES AND NOT TO GET HURT AND THATS WHY WE ALWAYS OVER THINK THINGS AND NOT DOING WHAT WE SHOULD BE DOING... ESPECIALLY AFTER BEING GIVEN ADVICE ABOUT THE SITUATION... EVEN WHEN THE ADVICE IS RIGHT... ITS A HARD THING TO CHANGE... THE WORST PART IS WHEN WE END UP DOING WHAT WE WANT TO DO AND EVERYTHING GOES SOUTH, WE END UP REALIZING THAT WE SHOULD HAVE JUST DONE WHAT WE SHOULD HAVE DONE IN THE FIRST PLACE... WHICH WAS LISTEN TO THE ADVICE THAT WAS GIVEN... AND THEN THE PEOPLE WHO GAVE US THE ADVICE IN THE FIRST PLACE WILL GIVE US THE GOOD OLD: "I TOLD YOU SO" YAY........... WELL I GUESS IF WE DONT LISTEN THEN THATS A MISTAKE WE WERE WILLING TO MAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE... ITS NOT LIKE ANYONE WANTS TO HURT YOU WITH THEIR ADVICE... ITS NOT LIKE YOU DONT BELIEVE THEY ARE RIGHT... ITS JUST THAT......... YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO END UP DOING WHAT YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO DO ANYWAYS... AT THE END OF THE DAY WHETHER YOU LISTEN TO THE ADVICE OR NOT, AS LONG AS YOU LEARNED SOMETHING OUT OF IT, AND YOU LEARNED SOMETHING FROM YOUR MISTAKE, THEN SOMETHING GOOD WOULD HAVE COME OUT OF IT, AND ITS NOT A TOTAL LOSS. THATS MY ADVICE :)

WOOOO PREPPING UP FOR FOOTBALL SEASON IS AWESOME!!! OUR FOOTBALL HANDEGG TEAM IS STACKED!!! WE ARE SO READY!!! SOMEHOW WE ENDED UP HAVING A COACH FOR THE TEAM NOW AND WE ARE MOST DEFINITIVELY MAKING IMPROVEMENTS. I CANT WAIT TIL THE FOOTBALL SEASON STARTS NEXT MONTH!!! ITS GOING TO BE AWESOME!!! SPEAKING OF WHICH... FOOTBALL SOCCER SEASON JUST STARTED THE PAST WEEK AND WOW... I AM OUT OF SHAPE... I MEAN I CAN PLAY FOOTBALL NO PROBLEM BUT SOCCER... WOW I JUST GOT GASSED LIKE HELL!!!!!!!!!! IT WAS RAINING LIKE MAD AND THE WIND WAS CRAZY HARD... WE WERE ALL DRENCHED PLAYING... WELL IT WAS ONLY THE FIRST GAME OF THE SEASON SO THATS OK, PLUS AS USUAL PART OF THE TEAM IS NEW SO GETTING TO GEL WITH EVERYONE TAKES A BIT OF TIME. ALSO SOMEHOW WE ENDED UP PLAYING THE WRONG TEAM... SO THAT WAS A WASH LOL. WE LOST THAT GAME BUT MEH. PLAYING FOOTBALL IM FINE WITH CAUSE ITS THERES A BIT OF BREAK BETWEEN PLAYS BUT IN SOCCER ITS JUST NONSTOP, AND WHEN YOU CHASE THE BALL DOWN AND NOTHING COMES OF IT THEN YOU JUST WASTED YOUR ENERGY... FOOTBALL HOWEVER ITS JUST SHORT BLASTS OF ENERGY AND THEN BREAK AND AGAIN FOR A FEW MORE DOWNS. THIS IS GOING TO BE INTERESTING TO SEE HOW IM GOING TO HAVE ENOUGH ENERGY TO PLAY BOTH... SINCE BOTH FOOTBALL AND SOCCER ARE BOTH ON SUNDAY... FOOTBALL GAMES ARE MORNING AND AFTERNOONS WHILE SOCCER IS EVENING AND LATE NIGHT... WOW... I AM GOING TO BE HELLA TIRED ON MONDAY MORNINGS... LOL... PLAYING ALL SORTS OF FOOTBALL HAHA. OH OH OH AND I GOT NEW GEAR :) NEW FOOTBALL RECEIVER GLOVES AND NEW FOOTBALL SOCCER SOCKS :) NOT SURE IF I SAID THAT... IM PRETTY SURE I DID BUT OH WELL :) ANDDDDDDDDDD WORK IS WORK... BUSY AS USUAL... OT... PAPERWORK... REPORTS... CALLS... EMAILS... WHAT ELSE IS NEW... RIGHT................. AND NOW IM OFF. UNTIL NEXT WEEK. STAY CLASSY~

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DAY BY DAY... STEP BY STEP

WELL... AS USUAL... AND ONCE AGAIN... EVERYTHING TAKES TIME, AND EVERYTHING WILL TAKE AS LONG AS IT HAS TO. YOU CANT RUSH THESE THINGS, YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OF IT. THE MORE YOU TRY TO CONTROL IT, THE LESS CONTROL YOU WILL ACTUALLY HAVE. SO WHATEVER YOUR "IT" IS, TAKE IT DAY BY DAY, AND TAKE IT STEP BY STEP. TAKE YOUR GOALS FOR EXAMPLE, YOU DONT GO FROM NOTHING AND BEING AT THE BOTTOM, TO BEING AT THE TOP. IT TAKE TIME AND ENERGY TO GET TO WHERE YOU ARE. THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS WORK ON WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DAY BY DAY AND STEP BY STEP. TAKE LEARNING AS AN EXAMPLE. ITS THE SAME THING, THERES NO WAY YOU CAN LEARN EVERYTHING AT ONCE, YOU LEARN THINGS DAY BY DAY AND STEP BY STEP. IF YOU WANT TO GET SOMETHING, OR LEARN SOMETHING, OR GO SOMEWHERE, YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT DAY AFTER DAY, JUST BUILD ON WHAT YOU HAVE, AND EVENTUALLY YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT OR GET TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. THERES MORE TO BE SAID.......... BUT YOU ALL GET THE POINT :)

REST OF LIFE IS BUSY BUSY BUSY, THERES NOT ENOUGH TIME TO DO ANYTHING ANYMORE... NEED MORE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!! FOOTBALL (SOCCER) SEASON IS STARTING THIS WEEKEND AND FOOTBALL (FOOTBALL) IS STARTING IN APRIL. OUR NEW TEAM IS GOING TO BE GREAT!!! I CANT WAIT TO START PLAYING. OH OH OH I WON TICKETS TONIGHT TO GO WATCH "RUN ALL NIGHT" WITH LIAM NEESON AND ED HARRIS... THE MOVIE WAS OK... NOTHING SPECIAL... SLOW AT TIMES SO YA... COULD HAVE BEEN BETTER LOL. NOW TIME TO SLEEP SO I CAN WAKE UP AND GET BACK TO THE HUSTLE HAHA.

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TOO MANY IDEAS...

WELL HERES A SURPRISE... QUITE IRONIC ACTUALLY... LAST WEEK I WAS OUT OF IDEAS, THIS WEEK I HAVE TOO MANY... NOW I DONT KNOW TO WRITE ABOUT... I GUESS IL JUST WRITE A BIT ABOUT A FEW... SOME TOPICS WILL PROBABLY OVERLAP WITH ALL THE OTHER STUFF THAT I HAVE WRITTEN IN THE PAST BUT MEH... ITS MY BLOG AND IL WRITE ABOUT WHATEVER I FEEL LIKE WRITING ABOUT :)

ASPECTS OF LIFE
FOR ME THIS IS THE WEIRD THING... IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN LIKE THIS... ONE ASPECT OF MY LIFE WILL BE GOING WELL AND ANOTHER WILL ALWAYS BE GOING POORLY. THATS JUST THE BALANCE OF LIFE... CANT FORCE AND CANT DO MUCH ABOUT IT. KARMA IS BIG ON THIS. THERE HAS TO BE A BALANCE. THEN WHILE TRYING TO TIP THE BALANCE TO ANOTHER ASPECT OF MY LIFE, A DIFFERENT PART OF LIFE WILL ALWAYS SURELY FALL... ITS JUST THE NATURAL ORDER OF THINGS. YOU CANT HAVE IT GOING WELL IN ALL ASPECTS BUT YOU CAN MOST DEFINITIVELY HAVE ALL ASPECTS GOING BADLY. MURPHYS LAW ALL THE WAY. WHILE SEEKING TO MAKE ONE ASPECT BETTER, YOU LOSE SIGHT OF WHAT WAS REALLY IN FRONT OF YOU, WHAT REALLY MATTERED, AND WHEN YOU REALIZE IT... ITS TOO LATE. THEN WHEN YOU TRY TO GO BACK TO IT... THE DAMAGE IS DONE OR EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED SO MUCH THAT THE ASPECT NO LONGER EXIST. I AM ALWAYS TRYING TO GET TO THAT BETTER SPOT, AND I FINALLY THERE, FINALLY IN A PLACE WHERE ONE ASPECT IS GOING WELL, BUT LOOKING BACK I REALIZE SOMETHING IS DIFFERENT, SOMETHING CHANGED, SOMETHING LOST. AT LEAST NOW KNOWING THAT I CAN TRY TO GET THAT OTHER ASPECT BACK AND BALANCE IT BACK OUT. THIS TIES INTO MY THOUGHTS ON TRADE-OFFS, YOU ALL KNOW HOW I FEEL AND ITS TRUE. EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS A TRADE-OFF, EVERYTHING YOU DO IS A TRADE-OFF. ITS JUST A MATTER OF WHAT YOU ARE TRADING OFF.

REALIST
TALKED ABOUT THIS BEFORE AS WELL... OR MAYBE NOT BUT WHO KNOWS THESE DAYS... A LOT OF POSTS WILL OVERLAP AND THAT CANT BE HELPED. I USE TO BE A DREAMER, THEN A OPTIMIST, AND NOW A REALIST. I KNOW WHATS POSSIBLE AND WHATS NOT EVEN FEASIBLE. IM NOT JADED... WELL SORTA... BUT IM MORE OF A GUY THAT HAS SEEN ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT IN THE END EVERYONE IS LOOKING OUT FOR #1... YOURSELF. ITS TRUE AND DONT EVEN TRY TO ARGUE WITH ME ON THIS BECAUSE YOU WILL LOSE. IF YOU REALLY WANT TO THEN TALK TO ME ABOUT THIS IN REAL LIFE BECAUSE IT CAN GO ON FOREVER. I DONT SEE A POINT IN CARING ANYMORE... NOT TO SAY THAT I DONT CARE BUT MORE THAT IF IT DOESNT AFFECT ME THEN IT DOESNT REALLY MATTER. THINGS ARE THE WAY THEY ARE. THERES NOTHING MORE TO IT. AFTER THEY ARE DONE, THERES NO POINT IN ANYTHING AFTER IT.

LETTING GO / MOVING ON
EVERYONE AT ONE POINT IN THEIR LIVES HAS COME TO THE CONCLUSION OF HAVING TO LET GO OF SOMETHING OR SOMEONE, TO MOVE ON AND MOVE PAST WHAT HAS HAPPENED. THE QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU... EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT WAY OF DOING THAT OR COPING WITH IT. SOME PEOPLE GET DRUNK, SOME PEOPLE EXERCISE, SOME PEOPLE WORK, AND OTHERS JUST DO WHATEVER THEY CAN TO STOP THINKING ABOUT IT OR DWELLING ON IT. THE ONLY CONSTANT THAT DETERMINES HOW LONG IT TAKES IS TIME... TIME DETERMINES EVERYTHING. THERES ALSO STAGES... THAT EVERYONE GOES THROUGH BEFORE BEING ABLE TO LET GO AND MOVE ON. IT JUST HAPPENS OVER TIME... THE PAIN GOES AWAY... THE MEMORIES FADE... THE FEELINGS CHANGE... EVENTUALLY SLOWLY YET SURELY YOU WILL LOOK BACK ONE DAY AND REALIZE THAT YOURE NO LONGER WHERE YOU WERE BEFORE, AND THAT YOURE AT A BETTER PLACE NOW, AND WONDER HOW YOU WERE EVER AT THAT POINT. AS USUAL... EVERYTHING TAKES TIME...

WHY... WHY NOT...
IM ALWAYS ASKED THIS QUESTION... WHY... WHY THIS... WHY THAT... WHY... WHY... WHY AND THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE... WHY NOT. YOU NEVER HAVE TO HAVE REASON TO DO ANYTHING. NO ONE CAN TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. WHO CARES IN THE END ANYWAYS. THE ONLY PERSON THAT WOULD CARE IS YOURSELF. SO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND DONT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY OR DO. IN THE END ITS YOU LIVING YOUR LIFE AND NOT THEM. 

FOCUS / GOALS
EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE A GOAL OR SOMETHING TO FOCUS ON. A FINISH LINE OF WHERE YOU WANT TO BE OR SOMETHING YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH. IT GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO DIRECT YOUR ENERGY INTO. YOU DONT WANT TO JUST STAY STAGNANT... YOU ALWAYS WANT TO STRIVE FOR SOMETHING BETTER, SOMETHING THAT GIVES YOU THAT MEANING YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR. SOMETHING TO SHOW THAT ALL THAT TIME AND ENERGY SPENT WAS NOT WORTH NOTHING AND THAT IT ALL MEANT SOMETHING.


SO THERES A FEW THOUGHTS THATS BEEN ON MY MIND THE PAST WEEK. WORKS BEEN BUSY WITH MEETINGS AND REPORTS AND WHAT NOT. BESIDES THAT WE ALSO MADE A FOOTBALL TEAM :) SO NOW IM GOING TO BE PLAYING AMERICAN FOOTBALL OR AS I LIKE TO CALL IT "HAND EGG" AND EUROPEAN FOOTBALL OR AS MANY PEOPLE CALL IT "SOCCER" LOL. ALWAYS WANTED TO MAKE A FOOTBALL TEAM BUT NEVER FOUND ENOUGH PLAYER OR GIRLS TO PLAY. SO ME AND A FEW COWORKERS JOINED UP A MENS LEAGUE AND AFTER LOOKING AROUND IT TURNS OUT THERES ENOUGH INTEREST IN PLAYING SO WE MADE OUR OWN TEAM :) ITS GOING TO BE GREAT. ITS ALSO GOING TO BE TIRING... PLAYING BOTH FOOTBALLS IN ONE DAY... YAY... BESIDES ALL THAT NOT MUCH ELSE HAS BEEN GOING ON. WELL TIME TO CALL IT A NIGHT. GOT MORE WORK TO DO TOMORROW... SEEMS LIKE THE WORK NEVER ENDS EH... LOL

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